In the process of modernization, the state of the traditional family system and reconstruction of conditional, changing the personal relations with countries also changed the power structure within the family, but on the basis of the harmony and stability, mutual cooperation, the family idea of never to be challenged, in the form of a "politically correct" become an important element of national governance. The elderly farmers are the risk susceptible group of social change. In the process of a series of political and economic changes, they gradually lose their family authority and face the survival dilemma with the characteristics of The Times. In this paper, the survival dilemma and adjustment of the elderly farmers in the modern family reform are analyzed by combining the two rural theme films "Happy Men" and "Happy Funeral". Political movement in the process of "family" to wife right transfer, the patriarchal family intergenerational relationship after field economic rationality invasion from moral to material, to take off the domain discretization, sequence flow of rural family old and abandoned, forgotten, abandon farmers film shows different period suffered by older farmers and have to face the dilemma, Also offered are ethical, institutional, social and other internal and external adjustment programs.